Lack Of Self-Love: And Why No One Talks About It

There are so many blog posts out there that talk about how to practice better self-love. Manifestos, bulleted lists, and more that tell you to ‘just to this’ or ‘just do that.’ They all make it so easy sounding and is often preached by beautiful, young, 20-somethings that have thousands of blog readers and followers. So, instantly the reader discredits the writer and feel even worse about themselves. How can someone keep up with that?! F*ck me that’s intimidating. I don’t know about you but try as I may none of it sinks in and I just start to resent the perfect debutante that stares back at me from her blog.

The hard reality is hundreds upon thousands of women feel like sh*t about themselves. Even if they’re beautiful, smart, successful, creative, strong, brave, bold, or whatever. They feel awful about what they look like and who they are.

So many of my beautiful and talented friends vent to me about how they feel like their ‘not enough’ for that cute guy that passed them up for the easy option. Not hot enough, not funny enough, not smart enough, not entertaining enough. Or they come to my home telling me about their male coworkers that got raises but they were left in the dust. Were they not efficient enough? Where they not bold enough? Either way the theme of lack of self-love comes up all the time.

And I’m no stranger to the feeling as well. I’m not here to offer up solutions… because there isn’t one that works over night or some life hacks for it. If you’re a woman reading this and can relate? Just know you’re not alone and you are valuable just as you are. You are enough. You are.

Don’t misunderstand me. I’m all for self-improvement for the right reasons. If you want to change yourself for the better then do it! But don’t do something drastic just because you don’t feel like you’re enough. Boob job? Yes! If it’s for you. If it’s not maybe talk to a therapist about it. You are enough. Just one example but you get the idea.

Anyway, food for thought! Love you all!